You have inherent worth and value.
Do my work pants fit after months of traveling?
Facing my fear of unworthiness.
Everyone has the same three fears: losing safety and control, abandonment and disconnection, and unworthiness. Accept this part of yourself and learn to work with it.
I recently unpacked my work clothes. They were in storage while I was on My Mobile Adventure. Today I meet with a prospect. I entered my closet.
The dreaded moment: Do my pants fit?
You push away your worthiness with “qualifiers.” This is when you believe you can receive love, abundance, or sleep once you have a completed to-do list, lost five pounds, got a bonus, cleaned the house, volunteered at school, or made dinner.
Dr. Brene Brown understands qualifiers to worthiness. She is a shame and vulnerability researcher. “Most of us think, ‘I’m pretty worthy of love and belonging. But I’d be super worthy if I lost fifteen pounds, or made partner, or my wife doesn’t leave. Or I stay sober. Or whatever our thing is.’” She shares her experience in lectures on Oprah’s Life Class.
“Worthiness is an as-is, here-and-now proposition. That’s the definition of wholeheartedness. Wholeheartedness is about engaging with the world from a place of worthiness,” she says.
Answer the following questions:
- What would you do if you believed you were worthy of an amazing life?
- What would you do if you were free from tension, stress, and worry?
- What would you do if you believed everything you need is already given to you?
A deep relief came over me as I zipped up the pants. They fit. I put my hands on my heart and said, “Moira I deeply and completely love and accept you as you are – even if these pants didn’t fit.”
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Recognize that there are no qualifiers to your worthiness.
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